My partner and I have been together for about a year and a half now and when we started she had 4 years of experience under her belt. At first it was nice and honestly a really like that she is a good dancer. But I just feel like I am holding us back. I am much newer to dance than her I am always the one our instructor spends the most time correcting and working on. I do not know if the lead typically has to be worked with more or I am simply not that good of a lead. I try and I know I am getting somewhere but I just want to be better. I want to be the one who has few troubles learning the moves and technique. I want to be the strong end of the partnershi, I want to be a great lead but I am getting so disheartened about holding up my end of the partnership.

Your story is very common. Some people say that it is easier to find someone to marry than find a compatible dance partner. Probably a slight exaggeration. But you get the point. You are even lucky that your partner is not maliciously teasing you.

Try this: Tell your partner honestly how you feel and tell her that you want to end the partnership, or at least reduce it to occasional practices, unless you involved romantically, in which case you are stuck, no one can help you. Get a good professional teacher, fitting in height, take lessons and do Pro-Am competition. You will be surprised how your confidence and knowledge increases.

A year and a half is not very long so if your partner is happy, you should not worry so much. If you are learning standard, in my experience, the instructor always spends more time with the lead. My partner is a better dancer than I am and our coach always spends more time with him than with me. What level are you at? Perhaps you need to worry less about the steps and concentrate more on technique. Why are you dancing? For fun, to compete? Do you have any goals? Are they realistic? In dancing, you have to start at the beginning and slowly work your way up. Those who for whatever reason, jump in at a higher level than they can muster, either quit in frustration or look like crap. Sure they know their silver/ gold steps but they are hunched over, their footwork is non existent, and they look like beginners. Steps are never more important than technque. Good technique = good lead. Do you dance with other women? My husband tests his leading skills by dancing with other women. If they can't follow he knows he is doing something wrong. If they have no problems, he is doing something right. Don't get discouraged, just do the best you can. It's only dancing, it's supposed to be fun.